21 WAYS TO LOOK LIKE A CHEATER
Better known as “a few things to watch for if you’re suspicious”
It’s a sad reality that people are not always monogamous in relationships.
I have compiled a quick list of obvious ways for a cheater to know how he or she can be identified.
- Hiding your cell phone screen so your spouse can’t see it.
2. Jumping or even slightly jerking your phone hand when your spouse walks up behind you.
3. Not being accountable with your money. Big money decisions should always be made together.
4. Being (or pretending to be) overly jealous. Often the guilty party is suspicious of the other, or using the old “offense is the best defense” ploy.
5. Not answering your phone when your significant other calls.
6. Initiating Facebook messages/texts (or responding to them) to people of the opposite sex and HIDING it from your girlfriend or boyfriend. Nobody is saying you can’t talk to someone just because they are not the same gender as you are. The fact that you are being secretive about it is cause for concern.
7. Having a secret email.
8. Having a secret bank account.
9. Having a secret apartment.
10. Suddenly taking more care with your appearance — new clothes, new haircut, different cologne.
11. Calling your significant other by the wrong name. This is a BIG NO NO!
12. Comparing your spouse to others.
13. Not fully committing. When you leave yourself other options, it often means that you are already exploring them.
14. Never acknowledging your significant other in public. This could be as simple as a status on Facebook, or it could be by not taking her or him to a family reunion or ballgame with you.
15. Talking negatively about your significant other to your friends, while saying positive things about an ex.
16. Starting an argument so you can storm out of the house, especially if you stay gone all night.
17. Discouraging your spouse from showing up at or calling your job, even if it is an accepted practice.
18. Lying to your partner about ANYTHING. If you will lie about one thing, you will lie about another.
19. Speaking of lying, another way to look like a cheater is to quickly dart your eyes in another direction while denying that you are having an affair.
20. Not supporting your partner’s dreams — ever. No matter what they are. However, talking up someone else’s ideas like they are the best thing since chopped beef! This clearly shows that you aren’t concerned with your partner’s happiness and well-being, and probably aren’t in it for the long haul anyway.
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21. After being confronted with the possibility of cheating, run your spouse some bathwater and treat her like a queen for the first time in…well, for the first time EVER!! This does not reassure her, but shows her that CLEARLY something is UP! Either you have CHEATED or you have SERIOUSLY ENTERTAINED THE THOUGHT!
No one knows you better than the person you have been living with.
When your habits change, it’s easy to see! Don’t think that you are getting anything past your spouse just because they haven’t called you out on it yet! Maybe they are silently getting themselves untangled from you.
Instead of being a low-down scum-sucker, why don’t you come clean and confess WHATEVER it is that you’ve done?
Maybe you will find forgiveness and maybe you won’t, but at least you can get to a place where you can feel better about yourself. Cheating on someone who loves you is one of the worst kinds of betrayal. No matter what you are going through, it’s never justified.
Often, people cheat because they don’t feel validated in a relationship, feel unloved, unworthy, unappreciated, and/or insecure.
I’m sure there are a host of other reasons for looking in another direction. None of them are good. None of them are worth it! What do you get when you trade one donkey for another donkey? Another jackass. That’s all. You still bring yourself to the relationship. Perhaps you should give some thought to the possibility that you are the problem to begin with! After all, YOU ARE the one who is fracturing the relationship…
No other person can make you happy, nor are they responsible for doing so.
Is that why you thought you were in the relationship? Happiness is fleeting anyway! Relationships that are worth their salt are built on trust. Being “in love” comes and goes, but deep and abiding trust, respect, and meaningful love is something that you build on from day one. Sure, there will be kinks. Rome wasn’t built in a day!
Anything that’s worth anything takes commitment and work.
If you HAVE cheated, you have broken the relationship. If the two of you decide that it’s worth it to try again, I hope you will remember what a price you are paying for the choices you already made.
My name is Allison Divine Bridges and I’m an artist and a writer. I write about personal development, recovery, motivational things, and the struggles we all face! You can find more inspiration at https://moodyoops.com