Why Other People Don’t Support You

And some do everything possible to stop you

So you finally did it!

Then you turn around to see, and instead of seeing everyone cheering you on, you find that they are angrily walking away. Or worse. Maybe someone you trusted is doing everything possible to stop you from achieving your goals.

photo by abridges, author

It happens. More often than we would like to think.

Sadly, the biggest opposition to our dreams often comes from our families and closest friends!

But why?

  1. They think they’re protecting you. When you think someone you love is setting themselves up for a failure or disappointment, it’s a natural instinct to want to step in and protect them from that! Maybe what seems like opposition is just your loved one’s way of trying to keep you safe.
  2. They’ve seen you quit things before. It would be hard NOT to question the commitment level of someone who’s a frequent quitter. Have you started and stopped several projects or dreams before? How many times have you quit on yourself? Maybe you weren’t really paying attention to this pattern, but someone else was. It’s time to prove to them that you DO have what it takes!
  3. They just don’t get you! No matter how hard you try, there are some people who will never understand you or your dream. That’s okay. They don’t have to! God didn’t give that dream to them. He gave it to you. It’s your responsibility to honor Him with what He gave you. You were born to be you, and no one else was.
  4. Your success puts the spotlight on their failures. It’s not that they don’t have the ability to do something, it’s just that they didn’t do it. The fact that you’re trying to live out your dream simply means that THEY could’ve done the same thing, but they chose to quit on their own dream.
  5. Envy. Even though they don’t want to put in the effort to have something better, they don’t want you to have it either.
  6. They feel threatened. Fear is a strong motivator. It can propel you in either direction! Maybe the person thinks your success means you will have no more need for them and what’s important to them, OR, maybe they think because YOU are successful then they can’t be successful. This is a completely illogical line of reasoning we’ve all been guilty of at least once in our lives.
  7. They’re just small-minded. Some people just don’t have big dreams or the ability to dream big, and they don’t understand people who do. Dream anyway. Dream, and do.

Don’t stay in any unsafe situation!

Don’t be a victim of mental, emotional, spiritual, or physical abuse. No one has the right to put out the light that God lit in you. HE gave you those gifts and talents and dreams! The world and the haters don’t get to take them away. JUST BE YOU. Oh, and do it with EVERYTHING YOU’VE GOT!

Write the book, fly the plane, paint the picture, sing the song, dance the dance, climb the mountain — or do all of that stuff! You don’t have to limit yourself to ONE dream!

You can do anything that God has equipped you to do.

You are ENOUGH! You are YOU, and that’s exactly who you are supposed to be.


My name is Allison Divine Bridges. I’m an artist and a writer, and I care about things like recovery, personal responsibility and development! This post was originally published December 7, 2018 at https://moodyoops.com/why-other-people-dont-support-you/. Thanks for reading!

I write about recovery, life, grief, personal responsibility, social issues, and overcoming. Email: allison@moodyoops.com, Blog: https://moodyoops.com/

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